Love Bombing & Oxytocin Addiction

Love bombing is a term widely used within the context of a romantic relationship. It’s essentially a form of manipulation that attempts to artificially create intimacy. When someone love bombs you, it means they lavish you with intense affection, attention, and praise in an attempt to win your trust and affection early in the relationship….

When Love Hurts: What To Do When You Can’t Get Out

When you first fall in love with someone, it can feel like nothing can go wrong. The butterflies in your stomach, the giddy feeling whenever they call or text you. You’re head over heels and can’t wait to see them again. We all hope that the person we’re dating isn’t dangerous or an abuser, but…

Childhood Shame Can Affect Adult Relationships

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? That no matter what you do, you can’t please anyone? If so, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. But where do these feelings come from? Maybe you were always the ‘bad’ kid in school. Maybe you were never good enough…

How To Find Authentic Connections With C-PTSD

If you struggle with C-PTSD, then you understand how difficult it can be to let go of the learned behaviors your brain developed to protect you in survival mode. On the road to recovery, many of us seek out genuine relationships but aren’t quite sure how to find success in them. There’s a ton of…

The Trauma Bond

In May 2011, I published a post about the “Betrayal Bond,” also know as the “Trauma Bond.” It’s also known as Stockholm Syndrome, but unlike that suggests, it’s not people bonding with their kidnappers. It’s an incredibly strong bond with one’s abusers. The Trauma Bond is often the reason women can’t leave a relationship rife…

Longing for Home

Since I haven’t had a home of my own for three years, I have adapted to this nomadic lifestyle. Whether it’s in a hotel room, AirBnB, or one of my host’s homes, I can “feel at home” rather quickly. It’s been essential, really. Otherwise, I would always feel out of sorts, like I didn’t belong…

Speaking Your Love’s Language

A couple of years ago, I touched on the Love and Apology Languages, but finding myself in a new relationship, The 5 Love Languages** have been once again brought to the forefront of my mind. The philosophy behind Attachment Theory is also quite interesting to me, which is a topic I’ll be covering in another…

My Beloved Enigma

I’ve been repeating three words to myself over and over again for the past ten weeks: I’m in trouble. My heart. My mind. My soul. My very sanity is at risk. (Romantic hyperbole. You know me!) I met someone recently, and his name is Brian Enigma. Yes. That’s his real surname, and it perfectly fits…

Bumbling Through Life

For the past two and a half years, I’ve been living the dream. At least, that’s what everyone keeps telling me, and they’re pretty much right. In the wake of debilitating trauma and the end of a 15-year marriage, I did what few would do in those circumstances. I started traveling through Europe, living in…

The 5 Love & Apology Languages

Several years ago, I read a wonderful book called The 5 Love Languages.* It taught me how I expressed and received love, as well as how my husband expressed and received love. Once we knew each other’s love language, we could more completely express our love for the other. Sadly, of course, trauma and loss screamed…