TFD Workbook

10 First Dates Workbook: A Guided Journey for Dating With Intention

Free on Kindle, September 5–9.

Paperback available September 10 — Order on Amazon!

Back in 2018, three years after my marriage ended, I decided to do an experiment: go on ten first dates. Not to find love. Just to learn how to trust myself again — how to talk to people, how to spot a red flag before it became another heartbreak, how to stop making excuses for men who didn’t deserve them.

That experiment became a chapter of One Reason to Live. Then it became 10 First Dates, the play — and after every single performance, women lined up to tell me the same thing: I’ve dated every one of those men. They didn’t just want to watch it. They wanted to do it.

So I built the workbook.

This isn’t a book about finding “the one.” It’s a hands-on guide for anyone getting back into dating after loss, trauma, divorce, or a long time away — built around the same ten-date structure that changed how I saw myself. Inside, you’ll work through your own deal breakers and boundaries, learn to recognize red flags early (in profiles, in texts, on the date itself), understand the psychology behind chemistry and trauma bonding, and pick up real DBT-based tools for the anxiety and grief that dating can stir back up.

“When someone tells you who they are—believe them.”

Part field guide, part permission slip — this is for anyone ready to stop making excuses and start listening to themselves again.

[Get it on Amazon]